Don't Hunt...Farm.

After incessantly ranting and raving over a plate of hot food at their favorite restaurant two friends had both come to the same conclusion. They had non-existent love lives.   The scenario was the same as most; the quality of men that they were meeting we meager.  Dissatisfied with their current situation and assuming it would be best to get out on the dance floor and lasso in the next suitor the girls pondered their fate.  Who would they date? It was tedious and slightly depressing not having a companion.  They had each other but why not a man.  So once dinner concluded I was brought into the conversation.  As a recently free agent myself I gave the best advice I could muster up.  

Its not about getting out there to find the next contender. Rather, its about improving quality of life.  Its about taking the time to find out what you want out of life and what kind of man would be suitable. Then lock away your ideal and stop looking for him.  One time as passed and realize there is no need for the hunt whatsoever you will be fully blindsided because the man you want will automatically be drawn to you. Now I am not suggesting that the exact next one you encounter will be the one. I never speak with such haste rather the next one that finds you and you feel strongly towards will want to fulfill all of your expectations because there is an actual connection and he will feel the vibes that you are sending off. 

You simply cannot expect to go out on the hunt for men as if they were bounty. Its like carrying a shotgun into the safari expecting to witness a variety. You will scare away all the scenery and will not have a beautiful experience rather a cold, dead and eventually rotten carcass which does nothing to satisfy your long term needs.

Stop the hunt.  Discover your needs. Sent out your subtle but awesome vibes.  Enjoy the result.  As it consequently stands  both parties are now in healthy suitable relationships. :)