What Did I Do? What Did I Say...NOW?

The intention of good gesture is so that the recipient will take pleasure in its result. Its not easy to convey as giver of gifts how disappointed one could be when gifts are neither received with joy nor accepted with what one had hoped....appreciation. as far as I was always concerned I typically enjoyed the grand gesture of gift-giving no matter how small the present. The initial pang of sadness takes its toll on you when you realize that the brilliance of its intention was meant to be well received however in the circumstance where its not, what to do? But beyond the whole sentiment of gift not being received as anticipated; how frustrating that the receiver sees no harm in expressing their disappointment not concerned at the impact it could have on the emotions and capacity to understand. We all have the great aunt, grandmother type who will without fail manage to buy us a hideous sweater on holidays and even though soon later it will be pitched in the donation bin respectively we accept it without judgement. We manage to accept it and move on. We don't pathetically take the time to use its presence as a platform for emotional distruction. The single act of showing disappointment in a goodwill gesture only implicates that the end result will crash in burn a fiery disaster of hurt feelings, damaged confidence and an overall established sense of insecurity. So now what?